What Is A Sensuous Life Coach?
~ A guide to help you get in touch with your Inner Wisdom and Sensuous Self
~ A partner in discovering, defining, and creating the life you want
~ A personal trainer to help you achieve your goals
Being your own Sensuous Life Coach means that you work toward discovering, defining, and creating the life that you want. You do this by listening to your Inner Wisdom, and doing what she says. First let’s define the words Inner Wisdom and Sensuous Self.
Inner Wisdom …
Your Inner Wisdom can be defined in many ways. It’s often called that“still small voice” . . . but I think of it as a quiet, and confident voice that is inside . . . that suggests that you might want to exercise . . . or perhaps it’s that part of you that makes good choices to help you stay healthy, both mentally and physically. You define what Inner Wisdom means to you. Your Inner Wisdom could be called, at least in part, your Inner Life Coach. Pay attention to messages from your Inner Life Coach if you want to make changes in your life. You can look at this part of yourself in any way that you want, but it is the Best Version of You.
Sensuous Self . . .
Connecting to your senses with Awareness is what the Sensuous Self is all about. Your Sensuous Self is the sensitive, passionate person that you are underneath it all. . . . Paying attention to the input from your senses of sight, smell, taste, touch, hearing, hunger, thirst, balance, and pain is what keeps you in touch with your Sensuous Self. Think about the excitement that young children have when seeing, hearing, tasting, touching, or smelling something new. They seem to use their whole body, and all of their senses to experience life. We used to do that too! You can reconnect with your ability to experience the world around you by becoming aware of the input from your senses. Your brain processes all of the input from your senses. Increased awareness of your senses can be the fuel you need to fire up your passion. This increased awareness can be learned, or more correctly, you can remember it. Learning to reconnect with your Sensuous Self is an important part of becoming the passionate, sexy, sensuous person that you want to be.
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A Sensuous Woman doesn’t need sugar to be sweet! Sugar is sweet, but what it does to your body is evil. When you eat white sugar, your pancreas goes a little crazy. The job of your pancreas is to send out insulin to help your body utilize sugar. It takes one molecule of insulin to move one molecule of sugar out of the blood stream, and into a cell. “The Roller Coaster Effect” happens because white sugar is an unnatural food. What I mean is that white sugar is so processed that it has lost all of the vitamins, minerals, and fiber that were present in it when it was in its natural state. This unnatural substance (white sugar) causes your body to overreact. As soon as you eat the sugar, your blood sugar level goes sky high. At this point, the pancreas freaks out (because it’s job is to send out insulin to keep the blood sugar at a reasonable level), and it sends out too much insulin to take care of the sugar. What happens next is that too much insulin is produced, and it causes your blood sugar level to drop very quickly. And, when your blood sugar level drops, you feel hungry, and will often reach for something sweet to help you feel better quickly. Wow! It’s easy to see how this vicious cycle is unhealthy for your mind and body.
Sugar causes many health problems. Here are a few:
~ Causes weight gain, and promotes fat production
~ Drives heart disease
~ Leads to metabolic syndrome and diabetes
~ Elevates insulin in the blood which can contribute to the development of cancers
~ Is addictive, due to the high level of dopamine that is produced in the brain when you eat sugar
The bottom line is that you need to avoid white sugar products as much as possible.
My solution is to use Stevia. Stevia is the best sugar substitute. It’s extracted from the sweet leaves of the Stevia plant. It comes in powder and liquid forms. I prefer the liquid extract. Some extracts contain a tiny amount of alcohol, so read the label, or buy the powder form if you want it to be alcohol free. Giving up sugar is one of the best ways to become the Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Woman you want to be.
Perfume can be nice, but natural fragrances are more gentle to our senses. Flowers are a natural source of real perfume. In my opinion, the best way to experience real perfume every day is to surround yourself with real flowers. Grow or buy flowers, so that you have some real perfume in your life every day. In your garden, try to include flowers that are known for their fragrance. Some of the sweetest-smelling flowers include Lilac, Roses, Hyacinth, Lilies, Lavender, Dianthus, Sweet Peas, and Phlox. Once they start blooming, be sure to pick a few for your home and office every day. Picking flowers actually stimulates the plant to put out more flowers.
Growing flowers in containers is another way to add natural perfume to your life, and it’s not that complicated. Most summer annuals and tropical plants will grow on a sunny window sill, or on your porch. Citrus trees do well in containers, and lemon trees are especially beautiful. Few flowers smell as sweet as lemon blossoms. You can also grow sweet-smelling herbs, like lemon balm or basil. Basil roots in water, and can be grown in water. All you have to do is add some water every other day and a little fertilizer weekly. Both basil and lemon balm will also grow nicely in containers in a south-facing, sunny window in your home. Exceptionally fragrant indoor plants include Citrus, Jasmine, and Gardenia.
You may want to stop by your local florist, and pick up a few flowers. Just visiting a Flower Shop can give you a real perfume experience. Tell the floral designer that you are looking for the most fragrant flowers. Be sure to smell them before you buy, because although they may be fragrant, they may not be pleasing to you. Flowers tap into the emotional center of the brain. What might smell nice to one person, may remind another of something unpleasant. My favorite sweet-smelling, cut flowers are Freesia, Stock, and some varieties of Roses. Buying flowers for yourself is a Sensuous Activity! You don’t need to wait for a special occasion, or someone else to buy them for you. . . . Put it on your list of things to do to become a more Sensuous Woman. Adding flowers into your life on a daily basis will soothe your senses, and help you get more in touch with your Sensuous Self.
Don’t forget to put a new Fridge Checklist on your Fridge (see previous Post) it will help you stay motivated every day.
Sleeping Naked can make you more Sexy, Sensuous, and Healthy in several ways. Here are a few of the reasons to peel off your clothes every night before you go to bed.
~ Your Skin . . . Your skin will benefit by being exposed to fresh air all night. Since you will be unencumbered by clothing, you will be able to feel the sheets moving over your skin, and this improves your body awareness. As you relax, and get ready to fall asleep, you can give yourself a massage by just running your hands along the curves of your body. Explain to your Lover that you are doing a Sensuous Exercise, and becoming more in touch with your skin. If your skin feels dry, just pull back the covers, and start applying Massage Oil to your dry skin. Massage Oil should always be within arm’s reach while you are in bed, in case someone needs an emergency massage. Close your eyes, and pay attention to how your skin feels as your apply the massage oil. Imagine that a Sensuous Massage Guy is oiling up your body. . . . You may find that your Lover will enjoy watching you, and may decide to join in.
~ Your Sensuous Hormones . . . Melatonin and Growth Hormones . . . One of the most important things to remember when you sleep is to “Be Cool” . . . Sleeping in a dark room is essential for increasing your Sensuous Hormones. Darkness helps your body release Melatonin, which in turn helps your body cool down while you sleep. This is important because . . . keeping your body cool promotes the release of Growth Hormones, which regenerate the body while you sleep. According to Natasha Turner (author of the best-selling book, “The Hormone Diet”), “As your body temperature drops, Growth Hormones are released, and work their regenerative magic.” The release of these hormones keeps your skin and hair looking healthy, sensuous, and sexy.
~ Fat-Burning Hormones . . . By keeping your body cool while you sleep, you are also helping your body release Fat-Burning Hormones. When your body is cool, you sleep deeper, which in turn decreases your Cortisol level, and increases your Appetite Controlling Hormones.
~ Oxytocin . . . Another great reason to Sleep Naked is skin-to-skin contact. Skin-to-skin contact with your Lover increases Oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. Oxytocin is involved in fighting the harmful effects of cortisol, reduces blood pressure, and increases sexual response and orgasm.
~ Your Vagina . . . Sleeping naked lets your private parts breathe. Okay, so your vagina won’t really be taking deep breaths, but good air flow improves it’s health and well-being.
~ Your Lover . . . Most men love the idea of having a naked woman in their bed. If you usually go to bed in some kind of clothing . . . it will be a fun surprise for your Lover. When you decide to Sleep Naked . . . sneak into bed without his knowing what you have planned. I’m sure that you will enjoy his response to discovering a naked woman in his bed. You may find that you spend all night long increasing your Oxytocin.
“The key to Your Sensuous Self is your “Creative Imagination”. If you maintain a strong connection to your Creative Imagination… You will always be a Sensuous Woman”…” Peggy Durham
Sensuous Life Coach
I was writing a Creative Imagination exercise for my “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach” Meetup next week when my lover brought me breakfast out in my garden. I had just imagined something just like that 🙂
Go out in the Rain and get Wet! On a warm Summer night, when it’s Raining … figure out a way to get out in Rain as naked as possible. It’s especially fun if you do this when it is Raining very hard. So the next time you hear a hard Rain, run outside so you don’t miss it. (Don’t go out in a thunder and lightning storm …of course.) Once you are outside remove all remaining clothes…if possible Then, as you are standing in Nature’s Shower run your hands all over your body to enjoy how silky your skin feels covered in raindrops. After the hard Rain slows down, find a comfortable place to sit. Spend some time becoming aware of how Nature enjoys the Rain. Notice how the rain drops hit the petals of a flower or fall onto leaves and gently masssages them. Breathe in the cooler, cleaner air and feel the overall “vibe” that surrounds you. . You can almost see the plants growing as the rain washes over them. You may notice that Colors are brighter and more vibrant. When the Rain stops you may become aware of how calm and peaceful it feels. The world seems more relaxed and pure. It’s as if the plants and flowers are relaxing after their wild Sensuous experience with the Rain. When you are finished with your wild naked experience with the Rain, run into the house and turn on a Hot Shower. Climb into the shower as soon as it’s warm or for a different Sensuous experience just get into it when you first turn it on… As the shower washes over you can feel the heat of it pouring into your body. Use your favorite body products that are fragrant with natural flower essences. Stay as long as you like enjoying your shower, then wrap yourself up in a big fluffy towel or robe. Have a hot cup of tea and sit in a Sensuous Space and make a few notes in your journal about your Sensuous Experience. You may also want to make a note of any messages that you may have recieved from your Inner Wisdom. Be sure to take advantage of hard Rain whenever you can to enjoy another Sensuous Experience with Nature.
Until next time,
Splendiferous Doses of Happiness also wrote about Playing in the Rain
I have always created lists on paper of things that I want to accomplish. Of course, I make these lists so that I will work on my goals and reach them… And then, sometime later, when I find the lists, I discover that I have worked on some of the items, but not all of them. I am not perfect and at times not very organized when it comes to reaching some of my goals. 😉 This is especially true of things that I want to do everyday to make me a Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Woman. That is why I started my “Fridge Checklist”. A Fridge Checklist works really well…as long as I remember to put a new one up on your Fridge every week.
This is how it works… Create a list of the things that you want to focus on in your Journey toward becoming a Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Person. Begin with at least three goals. Imagine the things that you would do every day (if you had unlimited time and energy) that would help you become the Sensuous, Sexy, Healthy Person you always wanted to be. Make sure that your list includes goals for all three categories – Sensuous, Sexy, and Healthy. Put these goals into a weekly chart, with goals down one side, and the days of the week across the top. Then draw lines to make boxes. Make your own list that reflects what is important to you. Start slowly, with just three goals . . . adding more as you go. Put the list on your Fridge. Seeing the list on your Fridge will help remind you to do these things every day, and that will help you reach your long-term goals. Make a check mark each time you finish a goal. Each check mark that you add to the checklist will get you closer to becoming the Sensuous, Sexy, Healthy Person that you want to be. You don’t have to be perfect. Just try to get as many checks as you can each week. You will feel good when you look at all of the checks and know that you becoming “The Person you Want to be” more and more each day. You can add any kind of goal on your Fridge Checklist. I sometimes put long term life goals on this list as a way to remind myself of them on a daily basis.
Here are a few examples of things to put on your Fridge Checklist… Eat lots of Fruit and Veggies … Walk, Swim, Run, or Ride a Bike 30 min… Have Sex, or Think, Read, or Write about it… Spend time in Nature, Breathe, or do Yoga. The possibilities are endless! Motivate Yourself with “Fridge Checklist”.
When you are having fun… make noise! I’m thinking of Sex and Massage as I write this because for most people noise is a natural part of expressing Sensuous and Sexual activites. The next time that you are having Sex or getting a Massage be sure to take deep breaths and let Sound happen. You may notice that you find yourself trying to control the sound or judge it. This reduces your connection to your Sensuous Self. So… Stop controlling…stop judging… Instead just feel what is going on and let the sound come out as nature intended… Ask your Lover or Massage Person how they feel about someone being noisy or loud. In most cases I’m sure you will find that being noisy is good and preferred. It lets the other person know what you like, and what you don’t like. Feedback In the form of unsensored expression of sound is an excellent way to ask for what you want and need without saying a word. A person really enjoying themself makes Noise. I also find myself being Noisy when I eat a Sensuous meal. Some meals are just Orgasmic. If you don’t know what I mean… you will when you read my book or a future blog! There are many pleasurable activities that just make you want to let sound out. After a cold swim in a pool or a day of skiing , a hot shower can make you want to moan…so do it. Start to become aware when you censor yourself as it relates to sound. Of course there are some occasions when you do need to hold back… and that’s understandable. But for the most part it’s important to let sound out of your body. The vibrations of Sound can be very energizing and healing. So be Noisy whenever you can.
Singing is also a wonderful way to be Noisy. Sing everyday. My Lover walks around the house making up songs. If you have that talent…use it. If you are shy like me, about singing, do it in the shower, in your car, at home with the stereo playing loudly… or with friends if you are feeling brave.
If singing is not your thing, you could try Chanting. Chanting is amazing with a large group of people or just by yourself. OM is the sound that the Universe vibrates to… So chant it at least 3 times or as often as you wish. To chant OM take a deep breath and and say Ohhhhhh for most of the breath and them Mmmmm for the ending. The deeper you breathe, the longer you can stretch it out. Breathe deeply again and repeat Ohhhhhh then Mmmmmm. Do this as long as you like and remember that you are vibrating to the sound of the Universe. This is very calming and even more mystical when done with a group of people. You can feel the vibration in the air that surrounds you. The next time you are with a group of friends ask them if they’d like to try to chant the sound the Universe vibrates to… Ok they may think that you are wierd but it is an easy way to see who needs help being Noisy or getting in touch with their Sensuous Self. 😉 You could also share this concept with them and help them get healthier by freeing the Noise that may be stuck inside of them.
To improve your connection to your Sensuous Self, use Sound to connect to your world whenever possible. And whenever you feel disconnected from the Universe take a deep breath and Ommmmm.
Until next time,
I am a self proclaimed Gourmet Cook, but I hate making Salads. . . . I used to think that I was the only really great cook who felt that way . . . but I was wrong. Lots of cooks avoid the salad, even though there are thousands. . . . Okay, maybe hundreds of reasons to have a salad once or twice a day. So how can we overcome this easy-to-accept “No Salad Lifestyle” ? My solution is to make the Salad first! It’s also important to remind yourself to think about the fact that fresh and colorful means full of antioxidants . . . and antioxidants mean anti-aging, no matter what your age is. Salads are not even hard to make and a non-cook, or maybe your sous chef (aka your friend or lover) can help make the salad. But you can design it.
Use your Inner Artist to create a Sensuous Salad. First, you need to assemble Sensuous Ingredients.
You will need Organic produce, starting with lettuce. Choose one or two varieties, and dark green is preferred. After that, add other colors. Choose something orange, pink, red, blue, yellow, and any other color you can find. The more colorful, the better. Be sure to use Organic Fruit and Veggies, if at all possible. If Organic produce hard to find…Learn how to grow it yourself. You can find all kinds of information about growing food in containers in books, magazines and online. So, if you want . . . you can grow your own Organic produce no matter where you live. I myself have written many articles on this subject. And, although you can grow an Apple tree in a container . . . Strawberries and Blueberries are easier. Lettuce and Basil will grow well indoors in a sunny south facing window, and tomatoes and peppers will do well in a container on your patio. If you have never tried to grow food… be brave and choose to grow something that you love to eat.
Once you have your ingredients, you can start to create your Sensuous Salad. My favorite ingredients include Romaine and Bibb lettuce, strawberries, blueberries, thinly-sliced apples or Asian Pears, slices of carrots, slivers of red cabbage, fresh peapods and red bell peppers. There are always the standard salad choices of cucumbers, tomatoes, green onions, spinach and celery or not so standard additions like olives, artichokes, grilled zucchini, or avocado. The possiblities are endless. I always add pecans or walnuts, and my favorite cheese. Sometimes, I add homemade croutons made from toasted whole wheat bread, topped with olive oil and garlic.
There are several ways to go with your dressing.
Peggy’s Sensuous Salad Dressing
Balsamic Vinegar and Olive Oil
Choose some really good Balsamic Vinegar and Olive Oil. You can buy flavored Balsamic Vinegars and Olive Oils which can be fun . . . but, I love my 18- year-old Balsamic Vinegar, because it is very sweet and tasty.
The proportions are up to you, but most dressings have more olive oil than vinegar. The most common ratio is 3:1 with 3 parts oil and 1 part vinegar. Once you have assembled your ingredients for your dressing, mix a 3 tablespoons of oil and 1 tablespoon of vinegar in a bowl. (You may need more, depending on how many salads you are making.) Use your senses to determine your preference. I like to add a bit of real maple syrup or local honey, a shake or two of turmeric, and maybe a bit of cayenne pepper. You can also add any of your favorite fresh or dried herbs, like basil, thyme, or parsley. Play with the ingredients until the dressing tastes good to you. This will become your Signature Sensuous Salad Dressing. Connect to your Sensuous Self to create your own Signature Sensuous Salad Dressing.
When you are ready to eat, drizzle each salad with a Sensuous Salad Dressing.
Take a Food Selfie and share if it looks good! 🙂
This is an excellent first course in your Sensuous Dinner. . . . Or, you could decide to make it the main course by adding your favorite Veggie Protein sautéed with some onions and garlic, or maybe some grilled Salmon.
Make a Sensuous Salad at every meal . . . or for sure, once a day. Put it on your “Fridge Checklist.
Adding more Sensuous Salads to your life will make you Healthy and younger looking… and help you stay in touch with your Sensuous Self.
Explain the concept of a Sensuous Salad to anyone who dines with you. This will help your friends be as Healthy and Sensuous as you are!
Check out my post on Fridge Checklist for additional ideas of how to stay in touch with Sexy, Sensuous, Younger You!
Until next time… stay in touch with your Sensuous Self