I am really excited to announce that my book, ” Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach ” was published Halloween 2014! Please check it out …it’s the digital version. I am now working on the the paperback version. Please tell everyone you know about it! Its on Amazon! Amazon Prime members can get it at the Lending Library for free! Also available for sale. There is a preview of the Table of Contents and several pages… please send feedback 😉
Perfume can be nice, but natural fragrances are more gentle to our senses. Flowers are a natural source of real perfume. In my opinion, the best way to experience real perfume every day is to surround yourself with real flowers. Grow or buy flowers, so that you have some real perfume in your life every day. In your garden, try to include flowers that are known for their fragrance. Some of the sweetest-smelling flowers include Lilac, Roses, Hyacinth, Lilies, Lavender, Dianthus, Sweet Peas, and Phlox. Once they start blooming, be sure to pick a few for your home and office every day. Picking flowers actually stimulates the plant to put out more flowers.
Growing flowers in containers is another way to add natural perfume to your life, and it’s not that complicated. Most summer annuals and tropical plants will grow on a sunny window sill, or on your porch. Citrus trees do well in containers, and lemon trees are especially beautiful. Few flowers smell as sweet as lemon blossoms. You can also grow sweet-smelling herbs, like lemon balm or basil. Basil roots in water, and can be grown in water. All you have to do is add some water every other day and a little fertilizer weekly. Both basil and lemon balm will also grow nicely in containers in a south-facing, sunny window in your home. Exceptionally fragrant indoor plants include Citrus, Jasmine, and Gardenia.
You may want to stop by your local florist, and pick up a few flowers. Just visiting a Flower Shop can give you a real perfume experience. Tell the floral designer that you are looking for the most fragrant flowers. Be sure to smell them before you buy, because although they may be fragrant, they may not be pleasing to you. Flowers tap into the emotional center of the brain. What might smell nice to one person, may remind another of something unpleasant. My favorite sweet-smelling, cut flowers are Freesia, Stock, and some varieties of Roses. Buying flowers for yourself is a Sensuous Activity! You don’t need to wait for a special occasion, or someone else to buy them for you. . . . Put it on your list of things to do to become a more Sensuous Woman. Adding flowers into your life on a daily basis will soothe your senses, and help you get more in touch with your Sensuous Self.
Don’t forget to put a new Fridge Checklist on your Fridge (see previous Post) it will help you stay motivated every day.
Eat beautiful food and drink pure water
Be aware of your thoughts, words and actions (Are they in line with the person you want to be?)
Stretch and move your body (Stay in touch with your body’s Inner Wisdom.)
Be aware of the input from your senses
Breathe clean air deeply k
Tell someone you love them
Write something in your journal (Thoughts, feelings, ideas, hopes and dreams)
Meditate or be still
Express feelings in a healthy way
Stay open and listen to messages from your Inner Wisdom
“The key to Your Sensuous Self is your “Creative Imagination”. If you maintain a strong connection to your Creative Imagination… You will always be a Sensuous Woman”…” Peggy Durham
Sensuous Life Coach
I was writing a Creative Imagination exercise for my “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach” Meetup next week when my lover brought me breakfast out in my garden. I had just imagined something just like that 🙂
Go out in the Rain and get Wet! On a warm Summer night, when it’s Raining … figure out a way to get out in Rain as naked as possible. It’s especially fun if you do this when it is Raining very hard. So the next time you hear a hard Rain, run outside so you don’t miss it. (Don’t go out in a thunder and lightning storm …of course.) Once you are outside remove all remaining clothes…if possible Then, as you are standing in Nature’s Shower run your hands all over your body to enjoy how silky your skin feels covered in raindrops. After the hard Rain slows down, find a comfortable place to sit. Spend some time becoming aware of how Nature enjoys the Rain. Notice how the rain drops hit the petals of a flower or fall onto leaves and gently masssages them. Breathe in the cooler, cleaner air and feel the overall “vibe” that surrounds you. . You can almost see the plants growing as the rain washes over them. You may notice that Colors are brighter and more vibrant. When the Rain stops you may become aware of how calm and peaceful it feels. The world seems more relaxed and pure. It’s as if the plants and flowers are relaxing after their wild Sensuous experience with the Rain. When you are finished with your wild naked experience with the Rain, run into the house and turn on a Hot Shower. Climb into the shower as soon as it’s warm or for a different Sensuous experience just get into it when you first turn it on… As the shower washes over you can feel the heat of it pouring into your body. Use your favorite body products that are fragrant with natural flower essences. Stay as long as you like enjoying your shower, then wrap yourself up in a big fluffy towel or robe. Have a hot cup of tea and sit in a Sensuous Space and make a few notes in your journal about your Sensuous Experience. You may also want to make a note of any messages that you may have recieved from your Inner Wisdom. Be sure to take advantage of hard Rain whenever you can to enjoy another Sensuous Experience with Nature.
Until next time,
Splendiferous Doses of Happiness also wrote about Playing in the Rain
The next time you think “I need to do Yoga”… Just do it. No matter where you are or what you are doing, chances are you could fit in this “5 minute Yoga” Routine. You can do it at work, while you are cooking or even while standing in line at the grocery 😉 And those 5 minutes of Yoga add up. If you can do 5 minutes of Yoga a day for a Year that’s 30 hours of Yoga each year … your body will notice. Just the act of doing Yoga increases your Body Awareness and tends to motivate you to pay attention to your Inner Wisdom and Sensuous Self. So find 5 minutes today for Yoga and share this idea with friends to help them become healthier and happier too! Standing Yoga Stretch This is a fun stretch that can be done almost anywhere. Stand up and give yourself an arm’s length on either side of you. Begin by rolling your shoulders forward 6 times, and then backwards 6 times. Next, let your head drop forward, and then to the right, to the back, and to the left. Then, repeat 2 more times. The Half Moon Series Intertwine your fingers, and stretch your arms towards the ceiling as you inhale. Exhale as you stretch to your right, Inhale up, exhale to the left, Inhale up, exhale stretch to the back (tighten your butt), inhale again as you stretch up, and then exhale , bending forward and stretching your fingertips towards your toes. Standing Spinal Twist As you come up, bring your arms straight out to the side at shoulder level, palms down. Keeping your arms at shoulder level, bring your right arm around to the front, and the left arm to the back. While keeping both arms outstretched… look at your hand in front of you for 5 seconds and then look at your hand behind you for 5 seconds. Then move your arms into the opposite position with your left arm to the front and your right to the back. Repeat the process of gazing at each hand. Repeat 6 shoulder rolls, forward and back, neck stretches in 4 positions, three times, and then the Half Moon series again, followed by the standing spinal twist. Repeat a third time, and you have completed your 5-minute Yoga that can be done whenever you have 5 minutes. This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach” Peggy@SensuousLifeCoach.com SensuousLifeCoach.com
“The Senses are the Ministers of the Soul.” Leonardo DaVinci
“A Sensuous Woman does everything with Passion.” Peggy Durham
(Sensuous Life Coach)
I have always created lists on paper of things that I want to accomplish. Of course, I make these lists so that I will work on my goals and reach them… And then, sometime later, when I find the lists, I discover that I have worked on some of the items, but not all of them. I am not perfect and at times not very organized when it comes to reaching some of my goals. 😉 This is especially true of things that I want to do everyday to make me a Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Woman. That is why I started my “Fridge Checklist”. A Fridge Checklist works really well…as long as I remember to put a new one up on your Fridge every week.
This is how it works… Create a list of the things that you want to focus on in your Journey toward becoming a Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Person. Begin with at least three goals. Imagine the things that you would do every day (if you had unlimited time and energy) that would help you become the Sensuous, Sexy, Healthy Person you always wanted to be. Make sure that your list includes goals for all three categories – Sensuous, Sexy, and Healthy. Put these goals into a weekly chart, with goals down one side, and the days of the week across the top. Then draw lines to make boxes. Make your own list that reflects what is important to you. Start slowly, with just three goals . . . adding more as you go. Put the list on your Fridge. Seeing the list on your Fridge will help remind you to do these things every day, and that will help you reach your long-term goals. Make a check mark each time you finish a goal. Each check mark that you add to the checklist will get you closer to becoming the Sensuous, Sexy, Healthy Person that you want to be. You don’t have to be perfect. Just try to get as many checks as you can each week. You will feel good when you look at all of the checks and know that you becoming “The Person you Want to be” more and more each day. You can add any kind of goal on your Fridge Checklist. I sometimes put long term life goals on this list as a way to remind myself of them on a daily basis.
Here are a few examples of things to put on your Fridge Checklist… Eat lots of Fruit and Veggies … Walk, Swim, Run, or Ride a Bike 30 min… Have Sex, or Think, Read, or Write about it… Spend time in Nature, Breathe, or do Yoga. The possibilities are endless! Motivate Yourself with “Fridge Checklist”.
The past is gone, and the future is not yet here. The only thing that you really have is the Now.This moment, and in every moment, you have the opportunity to be fully present. Becoming more aware, and learning how to be present in each moment will help you stay in touch with your Inner Wisdom and Sensuous Self. In every moment, you have a choice to go through it mindlessly, on autopilot, or to be fully present, experiencing the Now.
There are times when we are brought into the moment very quickly and dramatically, and we experience the Now. A few examples that come to mind are when a baby is born, when someone dies, or even when you are driving your car mindlessly, then suddenly slam on the brakes to avoid hitting the car in front of you. But, there are easier and more subtle ways to experience the Now in everyday Life.
Increasing your Awareness is key to Experiencing the Now. In Sullins Stuart’s Book “Living in Conscious Harmony: A Spiritual Guide to being in the Now,” he calls this “Intentional Awareness.” Intentional Awareness means bringing your Awareness fully to whatever you are doing in each moment. As you are reading this blog, are you fully present in this moment, or is your mind dwelling in the past, or projecting into the future? Living in the Now means engaging all of your Senses in this moment, and every moment. Right now, as you stare at your computer, use your Senses to become aware of your surroundings. Are you sitting in a chair? Is the chair comfortable? Is it hard or soft? Are you sitting with good posture, or are you straining your neck or shoulders? If you are drinking something . . . is it hot or cold? Is your environment warm or cool? Are you aware of any sounds or smells around you? As I ask you these questions, your mind will generate thoughts. What I am suggesting is to let go of these thoughts about the Now. Let go of judgments, analysis, and expectations about what you are experiencing, and Just Experience the Now . . . with all of your Senses. You will become more connected to your Inner Wisdom and Sensuous Self when you experience the Now!
Living in the Now is a worthy aspiration. It can help us avoid ruminating about the past, or attempting to predict the future. The only thing that is real is the Now, one moment at a time. Practice Intentional Awareness whenever you can. Fully engage in all of your experiences with all of your Senses, and you will gain insights about Yourself, and the Universe without really trying at all. Each and every moment offers you a new opportunity to practice.
“We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake.” – Marie B. Ray
Until next time,
Link to Sullins Stuart Book “Living in Conscious Harmony”