You are the Architect of Your Life !

You can Improve every part of your Life  with your Thoughts! Or  you can destroy your Life with your thoughts. It’s important to remember that you have the power to create the Physical and Emotional Health that you desire by paying attention to your Thoughts. Your Thoughts are very powerful! I have always believed that you can change your Life by becoming aware of your thoughts, embracing Positive Thoughts and letting go of the Negative ones. And although it is true that you can’t control everything that happens to you, you can control your reaction to it. And that has an impact on your Health and Well Being.

Recently I have been reading a Book by Dr Caroline Leaf called “Switch on your Brain” and I wanted to share with you some of the information that I thought was fascinating.
The Book refers to the Mind Body Connection and how our thoughts directly affect our Physical Well Being.

~ Research shows that 75-98% of mental , physical and behavioral health comes from one’s thought life.
~ DNA actually changes shape according to our thoughts.
~ Research* shows that thinking and feeling anger, fear and frustration caused DNA to change shape.
~ Due to our thoughts and feelings the DNA responded by tightening up and becoming shorter, and switching off DNA codes which reduced the Quality of Expression.

“Quality of Expression” means how well our DNA does what it’s supposed to do and relates to which genes are turned on and off and how they well they work. All of that, in part, depends on our thoughts…   So when we say we feel shut down by Negative Emotions it kind of makes sense.
~ Negative Thoughts lead to Stress which affects the Body’s ability to Heal itself.
~ This can all be reversed by Positive Thoughts of Love, Joy and Gratitude.Becoming aware of our Negative Thoughts is the first step.  When you become aware of a Negative Thought, ask yourself if you can let go of it or reframe it. Sometimes looking for the Positive in any situation helps. Remembering things that you cause you to feel gratitude can also help you change that Negative pattern of thinking.  It’s very important to notice when you are engaging in Negative Self Talk or holding onto Negative feelings.  Just tell yourself to “Stop” and think of something that makes you happy or engage in Positive Self Talk…whether you believe it 100% or not. Positive Self Talk can be something simple  like thinking ” Everything is OK, everything is Fine.”  or  ” I am thankful for all of my Blessings.”  Positive Self Talk is very Powerful! And remember that giving Negative Energy to any situation, never helps and it can make you sick in both Mind and Body.

This also relates to messages that we give to ourselves… like…” I’m not very Sensuous.” Thinking of yourself as a Sensuous Person is all it takes to begin  to change that mindset…

For other Sensuous Thoughts and Daily Sensuous Activities… refer to my Book ” Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach” available from Amazon.com

And remember …  you are the Architect of your Life !

PeggyDurham
Peggy@SensuousLifeCoach.com

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Email me if you are interested in coming to  a “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach”  all day workshop this summer 2016 on my 100 acres of Woods in Kentucky…

* Institute of Heart Math

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Horizonal Dancing

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To get ready for your Horizonal Dancing… take a hot oil bath with a few drops of your favorite Essential Oils, and a tablespoon or two of grape seed oil or olive oil. Inhale the steam filled with your Essential Oils and massage your body while you bathe. Spend some time appreciating your wonderful body, and what you can do with it. After your bath, put on some sexy lingerie, or whatever makes you feel Sexy and Sensuous.

Find your favorite music ~ the type of music that makes you want to dance. You may want to create your own collection of Dance Music. Be sure to play  your favorites that make you want to move. Then, get on your bed, strip down as far as you dare, and start moving to the music. You will be doing Horizontal Dancing . . . a new form of Sensuous exercise that we just created.

Wiggle and move your body to the music. If you are not ready to dance, just do a few stretches to help you get more in touch with your body. Close your eyes, and imagine that you are being stroked by a mysterious person. Do to yourself what you wish they were doing to you. Move your body like a hot, sexy woman who is in touch with her Sensuous Self. As you touch yourself … enjoy all of your body’s sensations. Feel your soft and sensuous, newly-oiled skin. Feel the strong lines of your body, and your soft silky hair. Invite your Lover to watch your new Sensuous form of dancing . . . Horizontal Dancing . . . and tell him that he can join in on the fun. Have him lie down next to you and do some Horizonal Dancing together. And remember… the most important thing is to have Fun and  get in touch with your Sensuous Self!

Additional Information: My favorite Essential oils for the bath are Stress away or Lavender and Orange. And I always use  Young Living Oils.

(Caution: be careful getting  into and out of the tub… it will be slippery!)

If you know someone who sells Young Living Essential Oils – Great!  If not, you can go to my website YoungLiving.org/peggydurham

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If you would like to learn more ways to get in touch with the Sensuous, Healthy, Vibrant Person inside of you, my Book, “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach,” is available on Amazon.com.

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How to Help a Friend with Cancer… Give them Sensuous,Beautiful Healthy Food!

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Of course there are many ways to help a Friend who has been diagnosed with Cancer. One of the most important things is for them to be able to talk with someone about how they are feeling… But, depending on your level of friendship and where they are emotionally, that may not be the best first choice.

Sending a message that you are thinking about them is usually appreciated and reminds them that they are not alone. But then what?

You may feel helpless and have absolutely no idea what to do. Cancer and depression often go hand in hand and energy levels can be depleted due to stress. Sometimes just taking care of basic needs may become too much of an effort for them. There are ways to help.

Food is critically important in the battle against Cancer. Sensuous, Beautiful, Healthy Food is one of the most important things that is needed to help anyone who is dealing with any severe health issue. A diet full of Fruits and Vegetables, Healthy Fats, low fat Dairy and lean Protein is essential to give a body what it needs to be strong and resilient… and heal well. Your friend may not have the energy to cook or even go to the grocery to get food. And thinking about a high nutrition diet may not even be thought about at all. This is where you can help!

Recently a few of my friends and I got together to create a new version of the “Fruit Basket” for a friend who was recently diagnosed with Cancer. It was a “Make your own Sensuous, Healthy Shake Basket”. That way my friend could have all the things that she needed to make a nutritious “meal” even if she did not feel like cooking.  The Basket included: A Nutribullet, Organic Carrots, Apples and Kale, Low sugar Almond Milk and a Bag of Arbonne Vegan Chocolate Protein Powder (with Pea, Cranberry and Rice Protein). I also included a box of Green Tea and a bottle of liquid Stevia. I suggested to her that drinking one of these Shakes every day and a few glasses of Green Tea … would be an easy way to provide lots of nutrients and liquids to her diet. The Nutribullet is amazing because it turns veggies…even carrots, into liquid. She was very happy with the gift. Of course any Fruit, Veggie or even Nuts can be used to increase the nutrient content. Berries and Bananas are also wonderful additions.

There are many ways to give food gifts to your friend. If you love to cook, you could prepare a healthy meal or something that could be frozen in portions for ease of use. You could also make a trip to your local Farmer’s market and create a beautiful basket of fresh produce. The possibilities are endless.

Helping your friend add more Fruits and Vegetables to their diet will help with healing because they contain Vitamins, Minerals, Antioxidants and other Magical Things.

Creative Visualization is also a powerful tool. This involves imagining your body fighting the cancer. There are many good resources online to explain how to…

And of course…be sure to get some Beautiful, Sensuous, Healthy Fruits and Veggies for yourself.

Peggy Durham

Peggy@SensuousLifeCoach.com

Author of “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach”
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“Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach”
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Get in touch with the Sensuous, Sexy, Vibrant Woman inside of You!
Learn how to be more Sensuous and Passionate in everything you do.

There is something for everyone in this book.  It’s written for Women, and for Men who want to understand how Women think. Whether you are Single, have a Lover, are in a Relationship, or want to reconnect with Sensuous, Sexy, Younger You . . . you will find Creative, Playful, Sensuous Experiences in this book that will bring Passion to every moment of your Life. Each page is a new Thought, Idea, or Sensuous Experience to help you become the Sensuous, Sexy, Happy, and Healthy Person that you’ve always wanted to be.

Chocolate for Breakfast!

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So I was explaining to one of my friends last evening that the best thing  I do every day for myself is to a drink a Sensuous Protein Shake made with fruits and vegetables. That way no matter what else I do the rest of the Day, I know that I did one really wonderful thing for my mind and body.
The first step in creating your own Sensuous Protein Shake is to get a high quality protein powder.  Dr Oz and many experts recommend Pea Protein and consider it the best protein to choose for your protein shake. I get my chocolate protein powder  from Arbonne. Available from peggydurham.arbonne.com   It contains pea protein, as well as rice and cranberry protein, vitamins and minerals, alfalfa, Co 10 and ginseng.   I use almond milk and add berries or mango. That works well if you are using a blender but what is really fun is to use a Nutri Bullet.  I’ve been using one lately. It allows me to add a carrot, apple, kale or almost any fruit or veggie.  The Nutri Bullet pulverizes all fruits and veggies into a liquid. Pulverizing it makes it super healthy and highly available to your body.

You can make this shake really smooth and yummy by adding a half of a square of dark chocolate and a banana. Then top it with grated dark chocolate.

About the photo above … the shake was so good I kept drinking it while I was looking for the camera.

Always make enough for two and give half of it to a friend or Lover. Have your Shake for breakfast or for  two snacks. Eating or drinking protein throughout the day keeps your metabolism humming nicely!

Peggy Durham

Peggy@SensuousLifeCoach.com

Author of “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach”  Click here to Buy Book on Amazon. com

Get in touch with the Sensuous, Sexy, Vibrant Woman inside of You!  Learn how to be more Sensuous and Passionate in everything you do.
There is something for everyone in this book.  It’s written for Women, and for Men who want to understand how Women think.
Whether you are Single, have a Lover, are in a Relationship, or want to reconnect with Sensuous, Sexy, Younger You . . . you will find Creative, Playful, Sensuous Experiences in this book that will bring Passion to every moment of your Life.
Each page is a new Thought, Idea, or Sensuous Experience to help you become the Sensuous, Sexy, Happy, and Healthy Person that you’ve always wanted to be.

Give and Get a 10 minute Massage

There is nothing better than getting a Massasge… I have been know to say this many times in my Life!  So Give and Get a 10-Minute Massage.  McMaster University researchers have shown that a ten-minute massage not only helps sore muscles, but also has an impact on inflammation-related, chronic conditions.  This is a great reason to give and get a massage.  Apparently, massage can trigger body sensors that send inflammation-reducing signals to muscle cells, and thereby reduce inflammation and speed healing.  Healing is promoted because massage tells the muscles to build more mitochondria, which are the “power stations” of the cells.  So, now there is another great reason for massage . . . not that we needed one.  

A shoulder massage is easy to give, and can be done fully clothed.  Just stand behind the person you want to massage.  Place your hand over the top of the shoulder, and gently squeeze the trapezius muscle that runs from the neck to the top of the arm.  Next, with your hands in the same position, reach down the back with your thumbs, and massage the muscles on both sides of the spine.  Move in small circles, or just reach as far as you can, and stroke the muscles up and down.  You can do this for a few minutes, and then take your thumbs and make small circular motions on both sides of the spine, as far down as you want to go.   After that, bring your hands back to the shoulders, and gently squeeze the large muscles at the top of the arm.  Then, run your hand gently down the arms to the hands, squeezing the arm gently as you go.  This works especially well if you are massaging your lover.  As you move down the arm, you can nuzzle your lover’s neck.  Ask your lover how it felt, and if he would like more.  You can start again at the neck, or see if he has any other requests.  You can also explain the information about how massage helps reduce inflammation.  

You can tell him that you feel that massage is so important that you are thinking about getting a massage every week, and you are looking for a hot massage guy to give you what you need.  Ask him if he knows anyone.  Tell him that you would be open to any kind of bartering.  Hopefully, he will catch your drift. You can be sure that he will understand what you mean if you touch him suggestively.  Tell him that you were told to pay for it, if you need to . . . but you prefer bartering.  More than likely you will also get a 10-minute massage. 

Get Off of the Sugar “Roller Coaster”

A Sensuous Woman doesn’t need sugar to be sweet! Sugar is sweet, but what it does to your body is evil. When you eat white sugar, your pancreas goes a little crazy.  The job of your pancreas is to send out insulin to help your body utilize sugar.  It takes one molecule of insulin to move one molecule of sugar out of the blood stream, and into a cell.  “The Roller Coaster Effect” happens because white sugar is an unnatural food.  What I mean is that white sugar is so processed that it has lost all of the vitamins, minerals, and fiber that were present in it when it was in its natural state. This unnatural substance (white sugar) causes your body to overreact. As soon as you eat the sugar, your blood sugar level goes sky high. At this point, the pancreas freaks out (because it’s job is to send out insulin to keep the blood sugar at a reasonable level), and it sends out too much insulin to take care of the sugar. What happens next is that too much insulin is produced, and it causes your blood sugar level to drop very quickly. And, when your blood sugar level drops, you feel hungry, and will often reach for something sweet to help you feel better quickly. Wow!  It’s easy to see how this vicious cycle is unhealthy for your mind and body.

 Sugar causes many health problems.  Here are a few:

~    Causes weight gain, and promotes fat production

~    Drives heart disease

~    Leads to metabolic syndrome and diabetes
          
~    Elevates insulin in the blood which can contribute to the development of cancers         

~    Is addictive, due to the high level of dopamine that is produced in the brain when you eat sugar 

The bottom line is that you need to avoid white sugar products as much as possible.

My solution is to use Stevia.  Stevia is the best sugar substitute. It’s extracted from the sweet leaves of the Stevia plant.  It comes in powder and liquid forms.  I prefer the liquid extract.  Some extracts contain a tiny amount of alcohol, so read the label, or buy the powder form if you want it to be alcohol free.  Giving up sugar is one of the best ways to become the Sexy, Sensuous, Healthy Woman you want to be.

Sleep Naked

Sleeping Naked can make you more Sexy, Sensuous, and Healthy in several ways. Here are a few of the reasons to peel off your clothes every night before you go to bed. 
~ Your Skin . . .    Your skin will benefit by being exposed to fresh air all night. Since you will be unencumbered by clothing, you will be able to feel the sheets moving over your skin, and this improves your body awareness. As you relax, and get ready to fall asleep, you can give yourself a massage by just running your hands along the curves of your body. Explain to your Lover that you are doing a Sensuous Exercise, and becoming more in touch with your skin. If your skin feels dry, just pull back the covers, and start applying Massage Oil to your dry skin.  Massage Oil should always be within arm’s reach while you are in bed, in case someone needs an emergency massage. Close your eyes, and pay attention to how your skin feels as your apply the massage oil. Imagine that a Sensuous Massage Guy is oiling up your body. . . . You may find that your Lover will enjoy watching you, and may decide to join in.  
~ Your Sensuous Hormones . . . Melatonin and Growth Hormones . . . One of the most important things to remember when you sleep is to “Be Cool” . . . Sleeping in a dark room is essential  for increasing your Sensuous Hormones. Darkness helps your body release Melatonin, which in turn helps your body cool down while you sleep. This is important because . . . keeping your body cool promotes the release of Growth Hormones, which regenerate the body while you sleep.   According to Natasha Turner (author of the best-selling book, “The Hormone Diet”), “As your body temperature drops, Growth Hormones are released, and work their regenerative magic.” The release of these hormones keeps your skin and hair looking healthy, sensuous, and sexy.
~ Fat-Burning Hormones . . . By keeping your body cool while you sleep, you are also helping your body release Fat-Burning Hormones. When your body is cool, you sleep deeper, which in turn decreases your Cortisol level, and increases your Appetite Controlling Hormones.
~  Oxytocin . . . Another great reason to Sleep Naked is skin-to-skin contact. Skin-to-skin contact with your Lover increases Oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. Oxytocin is involved in fighting the harmful effects of cortisol, reduces blood pressure, and increases sexual response and orgasm.  
~ Your Vagina . . .  Sleeping naked lets your private parts breathe.  Okay, so your vagina won’t really be taking deep breaths, but good air flow improves it’s health and well-being.  
~ Your Lover . . .  Most men love the idea of having a naked woman in their bed. If you usually go to bed in some kind of clothing . . . it will be a fun surprise for your Lover. When you decide to Sleep Naked . . . sneak into bed without his knowing what you have planned. I’m sure that you will enjoy his response to discovering a naked woman in his bed. You may find that you spend all night long increasing your Oxytocin.    

Peggy
SensuousLifeCoach.com
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Almost Famous Quotes

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“The key to Your Sensuous Self is your “Creative Imagination”. If you maintain a strong connection to your Creative Imagination… You will always be a Sensuous Woman”…” Peggy Durham
Sensuous Life Coach

I was writing a Creative Imagination exercise for my “Be Your Own Sensuous Life Coach” Meetup next week when my lover brought me breakfast out in my garden. I had just imagined something just like that 🙂

Power up your Metabolism ~”The Everything Shake”

Create your own personal Everything Shake ! Drinking one of these shakes everyday will help you in a variety of ways. This is a great alternative especially when you are too busy to fix breakfast.  I feel like it keeps my body humming smoothly, reduces food cravings and keeps my weight down without really trying. Also, having a high protein breakfast gets my metabolism fired up for the day… And, no matter what else I do that day I feel like I’ve improved my nutrition for the day if I start my day with an Everything Shake. It’s always one of the things listed on my Fridge Checklist! Your Shake can be made in a variety of ways depending on your preferences. You can choose a protein powder that is either vegan protein or whey. Currently my favorite protein powder is Arbonne’s Vegan Protein Powder* made with rice, cranberry and pea protein. It contains 20 grams of protein, 20 vitamins and minerals, has a low glycemic index and is gluten free.  To find a Protein Powder that meets your needs, just read the labels. I always prefer stevia as the sweetener. Do not use juice in your shake as the main liquid. It’s just too high in sugar.                                     

   Peggy’s Favorite “Everything Shake”
 Combine 1 – 2 scoops of  Arbonne Protein Shake Mix in blender with  1 1/2 cups soy, almond or skim milk (calcium), 1/4- 1/2 cup fresh or frozen blueberries (antioxidants), 1/2 Tbsp Flaxseed Oil (anti inflammatory), 1/2 -1 tsp psyllium seed fiber (regulates digestive system) and a few ice cubes. I also add a probiotic to improve my immune function. The best probiotic is  bacillus coagulans found in Arbonne’s Digestion Plus  or in a product called Digestive Advantage. Create a shake that you love by using your favorite fruit and if you like  you can add a few spinach leaves for additional nutrition.  Have fun and use your imagination to create your own personal  “Everything Shake” with all of your personal favorites . Add it to your Fridge Checklist to help you improve your Health and Well Being  every day! And that is vital to becoming a Sensuous woman.

Arbonne Shake mix can be found at HealthandWellnessLifeCoach.MyArbonne.com

Go out in the Rain and get Wet!

wpid-Rain.jpgGo out in the Rain and get Wet! On a warm Summer night, when it’s Raining … figure out a way to get out in Rain as naked as possible. It’s especially fun if you do this when it is Raining very hard. So the next time you hear a hard Rain, run outside so you don’t miss it. (Don’t go out in a thunder and lightning storm …of course.) Once you are outside remove all remaining clothes…if possible Then, as you are standing in Nature’s Shower run your hands all over your body to enjoy how silky your skin feels covered in raindrops. After the hard Rain slows down, find a comfortable place to sit. Spend some time becoming aware of how Nature enjoys the Rain. Notice how the rain drops hit the petals of a flower or fall onto leaves and gently masssages them. Breathe in the cooler, cleaner air and feel the overall “vibe” that surrounds you. . You can almost see the plants growing as the rain washes over them. You may notice that Colors are brighter and more vibrant. When the Rain stops you may become aware of  how calm and peaceful it feels. The world seems more relaxed and pure. It’s as if the plants and flowers are relaxing after their wild Sensuous experience with the Rain. When you are finished with your wild naked experience with the Rain, run into the house and turn on a Hot Shower. Climb into the shower as soon as it’s warm or for a different Sensuous experience just get into it when you first turn it on… As the shower washes over you can feel the heat of it pouring into your body. Use your favorite body products that are fragrant with natural flower essences. Stay as long as you like enjoying your shower, then wrap yourself up in a big fluffy towel or robe. Have a hot cup of tea and sit in a Sensuous Space and make a few notes in  your journal about your Sensuous Experience. You may also want to make a note of any messages that you may have recieved from your Inner Wisdom. Be sure to take advantage of hard Rain whenever you can to enjoy another Sensuous Experience with Nature.

Until next time,
Peggy
SensuousLifeCoach.com

Splendiferous Doses of Happiness also wrote about Playing in the Rain